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Monday, June 02, 2008

Patience to lend?

I think that I have ran completely out of patience for my boys today. I feel bad that It's only 1:00 pm and I am struggling with them already. I can usually hold off until Jer makes it home from work. I just now put the boys down for naps, so I can get away. Usually I only do one boy at a time, but I needed time to myself.

Part of the reason I ran out of patience is because we went to card-making at the church today. My boys are good boys, and they obey fairly well. When we're in public it's a bit of a different story. It's so difficult to discipline in public. I'm always worried that people will think I'm too hard or too easily on them. Or that my methods are not approved of. Does anyone else feel that way?

I hate yelling at my boys. I'm at the point today, that yelling is all I can do when they're tearing apart the house, spilling milk intentionally, beating on each other, pulling all the toilet paper off of the roll, and the wet wipes out, and so on. I am up for suggestions. When I get so feed up I know feel that I'm being a bad mom and I hate it. This venting is helping a bit, that, and the nap they're having. So like I said please give me some suggestions. This is a constant battle in my home.

7 comments:

Tamy Wilson said...

Sorry to hear that you have no patience today, try and do something relaxing like read a book or take a bath while they are napping or when Jer gets home go somewhere by yourself. That always helps me. For disipline we use timeouts on the stairs and that works and for reward I have a clear jar with balls that when they do as they are told or are being good I let them put a ball in the jar. When it is full like a week or 2 they either get money, trip to the dollar store, or we go somewhere fun. Hope that helps.

Ron & Elaine said...

Oh, how I sympathize with you. It almost seems that summer is worse than winter. They seem to have more energy in the summer? I really have no advice, except this: I really don't care what others think about my parenting/discipline style because it's what works for me and my family situation, end of story. If other people don't like it, they can deal with it. Good luck, I know it takes some time to adapt that attitude, but once I quit caring about what others thought, my life got so much easier!

Jude Sells said...

Hey Jer, Kristi, Noah, and Hyrum. Good to see you guys are doing well (except for the patience thing). Anyways it's good to see pictures of Noah more grown up. We lost track of you guys when we both moved out of the ward. Well maybe we'll catch up through the blogging world.

Josie & Cliff said...

Im sorry you are having stress.... I cant even imagine, because sometimes I yell at my baby and she is only 4 months old! Sad I know. I hope you get it figured out. Sometimes I just have to walk outside to get away lol! p.s. send us your email @ Danceryes@hotmail.com so we can add you to our blog since it is priate!

Charity said...

Hang in there Kristi. I have 5 kids at home this summer (counting Tucker) and it is very hard. I also try not to yell, but have those days. Remember the kids also have bad days also. I like to take them out to a park or somewhere they can run and get tired and then a nap. It usually helps. for the older boys they won't nap, but watch a movie and be quiet for an hour, usually when that time is over they are in a better mood. Don't worry what others think. As long as you are not physically harming them you are ok. Yelling is very becoming and the most others will think is "wow she yells a lot" but oh well. They do not know you or know what is going on. Do your best and pray for help and patience.

Jen'n'Jordan said...

I'm there with ya, Kristi! Braden is driving me NUTS!! Living in a townhome with an highly active 3 year old is not going very well! However, I also am adopting the do-whats-best-for-us attitude and learning that it gets easier when others glare at me or whisper about my son. They have no idea what I'm going through, or why Braden looks 4-5 and acts 2 (1 on a really bad day!). Once I remember to not care what others think, I relax a little. When he is tearing up my house, and I've cleaned it up for the hundredth time that day, I finally just have to take a deep breath and remember that one day, I am going to miss this stage of his life. And carpets can always be cleaned! Good luck!

Kristi said...

thanks for the advice guys, they brought tears to my eyes.